Proverbs 17:14
The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.
Cross-reference
Proverbs 17:19 ties love of transgression to strife, expanding on how strife begins — a companion thought to quitting before the quarrel.
Proverbs 26:21 compares a quarrelsome man to kindling strife — a vivid image of how strife spreads, reinforcing the need to stop it early.
In Proverbs 16:32, patience and self-control are praised as superior to conquest — directly supporting the wisdom of dropping a quarrel before it escalates.
Proverbs 15:1 teaches that a soft answer turns away wrath, a practical way to prevent the escalation of strife.
Proverbs 13:10 states that insolence causes strife, directly connecting to the warning in 17:14 about the beginning of strife.
Proverbs 19:11 adds that wisdom gives patience and glory in overlooking offenses — the same principle as stopping a quarrel before it breaks out.
Proverbs 20:3 states that avoiding strife brings honor, while fools are quick to quarrel — reinforcing the wisdom of dropping the matter.
Proverbs 25:8 warns against hasty court action, mirroring the dam-breach imagery — don't start something that will escalate badly.
Proverbs 30:33 uses a similar metaphor - stirring up anger produces strife, directly connecting to the beginning of conflict.
Proverbs 29:22 links anger directly to stirring up strife — showing the cause behind the 'letting out water' of conflict.
Proverbs 18:6 attributes strife to a fool's lips, showing one way the water of contention is released.
Proverbs 14:29 praises slowness to anger as wisdom, which is the self-control needed to quit before a quarrel breaks out.
Proverbs 3:30 advises against groundless contention, reinforcing the principle of avoiding unnecessary strife.
James 3:14-18 reveals the root of quarrels (bitter jealousy) and contrasts it with peacemaking wisdom from above.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 warns against quick anger, which starts quarrels — aligns with stopping before a dispute breaks out.
In Matthew 5:39-40, Jesus commands non-retaliation, embodying the proverb's wisdom — drop the matter rather than escalate.
In Acts 6:1-5, the apostles model this wisdom by appointing deacons to resolve a dispute before it escalates.
Romans 12:18 commands living peaceably with all — the same proactive peacemaking Proverbs 17:14 advises.
2 Timothy 2:23 explicitly warns to avoid foolish controversies because they breed quarrels — directly echoing Proverbs 17:14.
2 Timothy 2:24 calls the Lord's servant not quarrelsome but kind, embodying the character that stops strife before it starts.
Genesis 13:8 shows Abram proactively stopping a quarrel with Lot because they are brothers, illustrating the principle of dropping the matter.
In 2 Samuel 19:41-43, a dispute over honor between Israel and Judah sparks a bitter quarrel, showing how easily strife begins and spreads.
In Genesis 13:9, Abram offers a practical solution of separating to avoid conflict — aligning with 'drop the matter' before a dispute.
Judges 8:1-3 records Gideon using a gentle answer to defuse Ephraim's anger — a perfect example of dropping a quarrel before escalation.
Judges 12:1-6 narrates a quarrel that escalated into civil war — a perfect illustration of strife like an unleashed flood.
In 2 Samuel 2:14-17, Abner's proposal for a contest between young men quickly escalates into a full-scale battle, illustrating how a small beginning of strife can unleash uncontrollable conflict.
In 2 Chronicles 25:17-24, Amaziah's prideful challenge leads to a crushing defeat, demonstrating the danger of initiating a quarrel.
In 2 Samuel 20:1-22, Sheba's rebellion starts from a minor grievance and leads to civil war, vividly depicting the 'letting out water' of strife.
In 2 Chronicles 10:14-16, Rehoboam's harsh words trigger the rebellion of the ten tribes, a classic example of strife beginning and dividing the kingdom.
2 Samuel 19:43 shows the exact scenario: the men of Israel and Judah arguing over bringing the king back, illustrating how strife begins like a breach.
2 Samuel 20:2 reveals the outcome of that quarrel - Israel defecting to Sheba, showing the water released causing division.
In 2 Samuel 2:26, Abner pleads to end the pursuit, recognizing the bitter end of continued strife — a direct cry to heed Proverbs 17:14.
1 Kings 12:14 gives Rehoboam's harsh answer that ignites the kingdom split - a clear example of starting strife.
In Judges 12:6, a minor linguistic difference triggers a massive slaughter — the tragic outcome of not heeding Proverbs 17:14.
2 Kings 14:8 records Amaziah's challenge to Jehoash, a deliberate provocation that begins conflict.
2 Kings 14:10 has Jehoash warning Amaziah to stay home, echoing the proverb's advice to quit before quarrel breaks out.
Ecclesiastes 7:8 extols patience over pride and values the end of a matter — patience helps one drop a quarrel as the proverb advises.
In Acts 15:2-21, the Jerusalem council settles a major doctrinal quarrel, choosing resolution over division.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 urges a quiet life and minding one's own business, which prevents the strife Proverbs 17:14 warns against.