Genesis 31:20 reports Jacob's action — he deceived Laban and fled without informing him. Laban's complaint here echoes that same event from his perspective.

Genesis 31:21 narrates Jacob crossing the Euphrates and heading for Gilead. Laban here is describing that same flight as something that happened behind his back.

In Genesis 31:31, Jacob directly answers Laban's question here — he fled secretly because he feared Laban would seize his wives by force.

In Genesis 31:3-5, God commands Jacob to return home. God's directive is the real reason for the departure Laban here calls secret flight.

In Genesis 24:59, Rebekah was actually sent away from Laban's family — the kind of farewell send-off Laban claims Jacob missed by fleeing secretly.

In Genesis 24:60, Rebekah received blessing words upon her send-off — the celebratory farewell Laban says he would have given Jacob.

In 2 Samuel 19:41, Israel accuses Judah of 'stealing' the king away secretly — echoing Laban's same complaint: why did you steal away without farewell?